The Challenge your Parents Face
To raise children, it can be one of the hardest things to do. To raise them right can be even harder.
Growing up I did not want to be anything like my parents.
Not that I did not love my parents or anything. I just want to be different then who they were. I did not want my identity to be judge by who the identity of my parents.
How many people can relate to that?
You might be thinking, I do not want to be anything like my parents. On the other hand, you could be thinking, I love how my parents raised me and I would love to be just half of what they are.
No matter how you grew up, I believe your parents wanted to raise children to the best of their ability and for the most part they did.
Parents have the challenge of raising children in an ever-changing world and have to learn to adapt to that change very quickly.
You may be a parent reading this and you understand, children do not come with an instruction manual. Every day is a new day to learn how to raise children in our ever-changing world.
As you were growing up, I believe your parents wanted to teach you all they could so you could be a productive part of society. Someone who contributes to society not someone who feel entitled in our society.
5 Lessons You Can Use To Raise Children
In this article, I go over 5 lessons my parents thought me that I would teach my children.
What life lessons do you want to teach your children as they grow up? Have you thought about this question?
Can you recall any life lessons your parents or guardian thought you as you were growing up?
Would you teach those life lessons to your children? Why or why not?
Below are principles my parents thought me and my sister as they learned to raise children in the 1980’s.
Perhaps you can take one of these lessons and teach it within your family.
Growing up in Montreal, Canada we went through two recessions. My parents lost the family business after the second recession because they could not recover financially.
In early 1990, when my sister and I got our first job my dad did his best to teach us about saving money.
He thought us the money that we were earning was not our money. Rather it was, “Family” money. My dad thought us that family money was everyone’s money.
Family money means if anyone in the family needs money we are all obligated to give the other person money, not just lead it out. There were no expectations on getting the money back.
My parents did not take our pay check away from us. They never asked to see our bank statements. My dad would guide us on what we should do with our money based on what he thought was best to grow it.
This was a different way to think about money. The reason this way of thinking worked for my family is, my sister and I understood that everything my parents worked hard to create would be ours someday.
So why would my sister and I not help our parents out as they worked hard to create a life for us?
We understood our parents were building our future inheritance. It was our responsibility to help them find a way to make that inheritance larger when we got to our teens.
Helping The Kids
No matter how old you are you may have experience hard times in your life. In those hard times, you may have reached out to your parents and asked for help.
This could be money, a place to stay, advise or to borrow their car to go to a job interview.
I believe if your parents could help you, they probably did their best to do so.
My parents though me that no matter what challenges I face in life they would always be there to help me, if I needed them.
This is what unconditional love is.
That means I could work hard, take chances and even experience failures and know without a shadow of a doubt that my parents would be in my corner supporting me.
This makes life so much easier when you know you can go out and create the life you want and your parents are there to help you along the way.
You might be saying, why does an adult male or female need help from their parents?
I ask you the question, why do you feel your parents gave birth to you? or Why did you and your spouse give birth to your children?
If you have an opportunity and you enjoy traveling, travel as much as you can with your kids. Not only do you show them and teach them about the world outside the city you live in, you teach them about other people and their cultures.
In 2002, our family of four had the opportunity to travel to India. India is where my parents were born, grew up and have many of their memorable experiences before my sister and I were born.
My experience of traveling with my parents gave me an appreciation for my family’s history, culture and rituals.
I had a chance to learn about culture, religion, poverty and learned how well of I am in Canada, compared to billions of other people.
This single experience not only connected me to my family but gave me an appreciation for how hard my parents work.
I remember the vacation vividly and often think about the wonderful family trip we took. All the memories we created and how I would love to do the same trip with my kids in the future.
If my parents had not taken my sister and I to India, I can most certainly say, I would have not gone to India on my own.
Funny thing is although I have want to go back to India, I have not been back since.
You can probably hear your mother’s voice now as she says, “I don’t want you to play with…”, insert the name of the person your mom did want you to hang around with.
Maybe she thought they were a bad influence. I can’t say for sure, but a mother’s intuition is remarkable.
When you were young you heard that statement and defied your parents’ wishes anyways. How could you not hang out with that boy or girl your parents said not to hang out with?
You were going to show your parents how wrong they were about your choice in friends.
As we grow up, we realize our parents might have a point when they speak to us.
In life, it is important to choose your friends wisely. Those same friends will influence, mold and determine your personality.
You many have heard the statement by motivational speaker Jim Rohn when we says, “We are the average of the five people we spend the most time with.”
When you choose the right friends, you end up choosing the right life partner, business partner and live by the right morals that give you a happier life experience.
Growing up my parents never told me to have my own business. They told go to school, get a good job and crave out a good living.
The same advice, I think, my parents got from their parents in India.
But by their actions, I learned it is important to have my own business. Growing up my parents had their own import and export business for lady’s fashion.
This is when I noticed my parents did not work for anyone but they worked for themselves. From an early age, I noticed that having your own business was not easy. It took hard work, dedication and commitment to be a success in your business.
Since my teenage years, I have worked for many companies and finally understand the importance of owning your own business. Currently I am in the midst of building my business, Discover Your Life Today and UsingYourPower.com, with David Andre Wiebe.
Having your own business is hard work and it take time to build something of value, but so does working for someone else.
These 5 principle my parents use to raise children can be used by you to raise your own children.
Not everyone of these principles will work for your family but I believe you can teach your children life lesson based on these examples.
Which one of the five principle will you teach your children?
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