Learn How To Be People Smart
Not people smart? Need to know how to communicate more effectively with people? Looking for ways to increase sales by building strong relationships?
We can all use a refresh time to time. This article will the finesse you need to build habits to be people smart overtime. Learn how to interact with anyone.
Les Giblin’s book walks you through the steps you needed to have guaranteed results. Those results only come when you do the work. Are you ready to be successful, achieve positive results, develop skills and learn how to work people smart?
Why Are We Not People Smart
There are a few reason. Sometimes we do not consider the other persons feeling or perspective. We are to busy looking at everything from our own view-point.
When we were younger we did not get any formal training on people skills. We are expected to learn it on our own. Maybe that’s why there are so many books teaching how to be people smart.
Why Be People Smart
People who understand how to be people people, usually have a happier life. They do better at work and relate to a wide spear of influence.
Those who communicate effectively usually make more money, have more confidence, friends, security and personal satisfaction.
This is because they choose to learn how to understand people better than those who think they are doing a good job already.
8 Ways To Become People Smart
How To Talk To People
When you talk to someone realize that the knowledge you have is different from the person you’re talking to. Cut them some slack and relax.
This means continue to be professional but drop your ego and learn to communicate effectively with the person in front of you. Everyone has a different style and you need to accommodate for that. Find more details by clicking the link.
Want to make friend rights away? Talk to people about their favourite topic. Yes, themselves.
You can ask them about their home, political believes, sports, work, business, religion, family, travel and hobbies. If there is dead space, ask another question about the people you are conversing with.
When you interact with people use words like You and Yours not I, Me, My and Mine.
Make People Feel Important
The more you make people feel important, the more they will like and respect you. Sounds easy, right?
Talk to people about themselves and they will like you.
When you are asking questions to people, all you have to do is listen. Listen with your eyes, ears and body. Listening means not talking over the other person. It means letting the person finish their thoughts.
Once they finish taking it’s not time to dismiss what they said. Ask a follow-up question. Be careful not to “one up” what they are saying with a story of your own.
When asking a question, use the person’s name. Why? Because it is the most effective word in the english language.
Agree With People
This does not mean agree with people just to agree with someone. What this mean is look for reason to agree with people. We all love to know that we are right. It feeds our ego.
In sales when someone believes they are right they are more likely to make a purchase. Help people see they are making a good decision.
Use positive words when you agree with someone. If someone else is around project your voice just a little louder so others can hear.
If you are wrong admit your wrong. People like to work with people who can admit it. We are all human. The next step you take to fix the situation will be critical.
If you disagree with what is being said, don’t disagree with it out loud. Sometimes not saying anything is your best friend. This is what being people smart is about.
Learn To Influence People
When you understand why people make the decisions they do you can influence them. This article on, How To Win Friends and Influence People, is a great read.
Do you know what makes people do the things they do? Its their, “Hot Buttons”.
It is money, prestige, friendship, ego, security or something else that’s important to the person you’re talking to? Find out.
People do not always tell you whats important to them in words. You have to watch their actions, what they are wearing, driving, where they live and what how they communicate their message.
If you’re in sales, a simple tip to influence people is to use testimonies from people who have purchased your product.
We all want to know our buying decision is a good one. If someone else has bought the product or service, then our decision is a good one also.
Help People Make Up There Minds
These days there is so much choice in products and services, it can be confusing when making your final choice.
If you are in sales or trying to get a friend to do something for you, it is important to give a reason to say YES.
Get them to say yes to you and themselves. Get them in the mood to buy from you or help you. Develop an atmosphere where the answer is yes. People expect to say yes to you at the end of the conversation.
Being people smart is not manipulating people but it is guiding people to the decision they want to make based on their values, believes, needs and wants.
Set The Mood
This can be done in one simple step which requires two actions from you. When you meet people all you have to do is look them in the eye and smile. Yes, it’s that easy.
A sincere smile helps set a positive mood and helps you overcome any stress from the first meeting.
It does not cost you any money to be friendly to people but it can cost you friends, business, referrals and your marriage, if you are not.
Praising And Critiquing People
This is a skill anyone can learn and apply. We all like to be told we are doing a great job. It’s the feeling of knowing we are appreciated. This proves people will continue to do the right things when kind words are said to them.
Find reasons to compliment others. Be sincere in how you do it and be happy for the success of others.
When critiquing others do this by being people smart. You should use the right words, tone and heart.
One of the best ways to critique someone is to let the know that they are doing a good job but they can improve in other areas.
If you are going to comment on someones habits then provide a way they can improve. If you do not provide solutions then all your doing is putting the person down.
Two words will get you results, empower the other person and grow all the people involved. Thank You.
Do not just say thank you because you feel you should. When you say it, do not come off insincere.
There are a few ways you can thank a person. Walk up to them and say thank you. You can send them a hand written card or reach out to then by phone call.
Being people smart is about dealing with people in the most effective way. It is about having confidence in yourself. It’s about investing your time into others even when you do not feel like it.
When you are people smart you build stronger relationships, discover interesting facts about others, find out what motives people and in business you find ways for people to agree with your line of thinking.
Now it’s your turn to influence others. Share the answers to questions people are looking for on your favorite social media sites. It’s easy to do. Just click the button so your inner circle can start learning.
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